Withstanding The Heat

Can your marriage withstand the heat and who sets the temp?

We are in the middle of July, which is one of the hottest months in the year. Well just like the heat we feel from outside, sometimes we feel a little heat inside our marriages. When things get a little heated, we have to be willing to take the steps to cool things down, by adjusting the temperature.

Here are a few simple questions to think about when the heat is on in your marriage and you need to reset the temp:

• Who‘s willing to apologize: Who is willing to take the high road and make amends with an apology. Often times, an apology can cool things down when there is a disagreement. Just remember, it should not be the same person having to apologize every time. Forgive and extend grace to your spouse. Take accountability and apologize.

• Who’s willing to serve: Instead of allowing things to get hotter, take a step back and think about what you can do to make your spouse feel better. Serving one another in love can cool down the heat. Be willing to compromise or let it go because you love your spouse. Do things that will make your spouse smile and feel loved.

• Who’s willing to adjust their thermostat: Which spouse is willing to make an adjustment in the middle of the heated discussion. Sometimes all it takes is for one person to adjust their attitude, lower their tone and listen to reduce the heat.

When the heat is on in your marriage, take the neccesary steps to reduce the heat and adjust the temperature in order to have a healthy marriage. Reducing the heat starts with YOU!

May your marriage be filled with sunshine and not too much heat!